Having moments where doubt, discouragement, and disappointment fill our minds are common. What's crazy is that in most cases, the doubt, discouragement, and disappointment that we feel are strictly internal. A lot of the time people don't come around and say, "You can't do this, you will fail." You're telling yourself that that's what people are thinking without having actually heard it. Or perhaps, you've been making strides towards something you want to achieve, and you're hit with an obstacle that has you feeling disappointed and thinking, "Maybe I shouldn't be doing this." Guess what? I have a story for you (sort of).
I tend to focus a lot on the negative, rather than the positive. Something that I'm still trying to switch in mind. Anyway, I've always doubted myself. I have absolutely no idea why either, because I know that I'm capable of doing all things as long as I have God, and I put my mind to whatever it is I want to do. I think what always stopped me from finishing something that I started was my want for it to be perfect. I have high expectations for everything that concerns me and the people in my circle. Everyone has to be the best in whatever it is that they're doing, no matter what. But I always forget that the best always start from somewhere, and in all cases it's from the bottom. So, what I've begun to do is rid my mind of expectations, which is probably the hardest thing to do. I'm still working on it, but no expectations = no disappointment. Instead, I'm still working on changing my thought process to having high standards and low or no expectations. Once I begun to set high standards for myself, I eliminated a lot of the nonsense that used to bring me down. I literally told myself, "I don't like this and I don't need this is my life. I'm worthy of what I consider to be the best, and no one can tell me otherwise." I know for some people it takes more than just saying it for things to change. It is a process, and it's hard to let certain things go, but once it's gone, I promise you'll feel new.
Now, say you've starting speaking positivity into your life. You've gotten rid of most or all of the negativity in your life, and you've been making movements towards whatever it is you want to do, and things have been pretty smooth. All of a sudden, one thing doesn't work out the way you planned. I'm a brat, so when something doesn't go as planned in a negative way, I begin to revert back to my former way of thinking which is, "Maybe this isn't supposed to happen." And what's sad about that is it's always something that can easily be fixed. My boyfriend said something that stuck with me the last time I was feeling like this. He said, "Don't focus on what's not going to happen, focus on what's going to happen. Turn it around where this change in plans works out for you. You know, everything happens for a reason. Just keep it pushing." And he was right. I really do believe everything happens for a reason. Looking for the positive in negative circumstances is hard, but it's necessary if you're really trying to make your dreams become a real thing.
Feelings of self doubt, discouragement, and disappointment are distractions. That's their sole purpose of existence. To keep us from doing what we're meant to do. Remember when I said that a lot of the time people don't come around and say discouraging things or implant feelings of self doubt? Some of the time people do. Those people also serve as distractions. It can be your brother/sister, mother/father, boyfriend/girlfriend, best friend, cousin, some random on the street, anyone. You have to believe so much in yourself and in your dreams that words that are meant to bring you down, or plans that fall through no longer phase you. Those things are going to happen, but there's no one like you. Nobody does what you do the way you do it, and with faith, belief in yourself and your gift, and consistency no one can stop you. No matter what happens, keep it pushing.